Design a life
that works for your brain
Coaching for autistic, ADHD
and AuDHD women
Does this sound familiar?
✦ Canceling plans at the last minute because the thought of small talk makes you want to crawl out of your skin
✦ Having a meltdown over something "minor" and then feeling ashamed for being "too sensitive"
✦ Avoiding the grocery store at all costs because the fluorescent lights and crowded aisles will drain all your energy
✦ Realizing it's been 10 hours since you ate because you were so absorbed in your special interest that you lost track of time
✦ Ruminating for hours about your latest conversation with coworkers, wondering how you might have offended them without realizing it
What's happening under the surface
➤ Even when you're surrounded by people, you feel isolated and long for connection
➤ You feel like you're failing at being an adult
➤ After masking all day at work, you come home exhausted and drained
➤ You're drowning in overwhelm, and the to-do list never gets shorter
➤ You struggle to maintain relationships because socializing feels like a performance
Here's the truth
You are not the problem.
Your neurodivergent brain isn't broken.
You don't need to "just try harder."
The problem is that you've spent your entire life trying to brute-force your way through systems that weren't built for you.
You need support that actually understands how your brain works and helps you design a life that fits.
You don't need to "fix'' yourself
You've been trying to make yourself fit into a world that wasn't designed for your brain.
And you're exhausted.
I help autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD women stop forcing themselves into systems that don't work and start building lives that do work for them.
Through one-on-one coaching, we can work together to understand where you are now, clarify where you want to go, and create a plan to get you there.
Life can be so much easier
You can learn how to:
🌱 Create systems that work specifically for you, even if they don't make sense to anyone else
🌱 Give yourself permission to unmask and be your authentic self
🌱 Manage the intense emotions that often come with autism and ADHD
🌱 Understand your sensory sensitivities and how they affect your energy
🌱 Match your peak energy periods with the tasks that require the most energy
Trade overwhelm for strategies that work
Hi, I'm Mary Pasciak: a neurodivergence coach, mom, former Buffalo News reporter, and AuDHDer.
For most of my life, I existed in a near-constant state of overwhelm and exhaustion. When I was diagnosed at the age of 49, I began to understand my life differently.
I created strategies that actually work for me. My stress level dropped. And my shame began to subside.
After seeing how much my life improved, I wanted to help other people benefit too, so I trained to become a professional coach.
My clients are doing amazing things
I know this might sound like something out of a cheesy made-for-TV movie, but it's true:
When I'm working with clients, there comes a moment when something shifts inside them.
They stop doubting themselves. They stop apologizing.
They reconnect with strengths they've always had — creativity, ingenuity, curiosity, passion — and finally let themselves be who they actually are.
That's when they become unstoppable.
Some of my clients' professional wins:
🔥 Taking the leap from a corporate IT job to a writing career
🔥 Finishing professional projects that had been stalled for months (or years)
🔥 Launching a nonprofit organization
🔥 Getting workplace accommodations to make their job sustainable
🔥 Starting businesses that align with their values and energy
Their personal breakthroughs include:
🎯 Taking control of their finances by creating ADHD-friendly systems
🎯 Conquering their inbox (yes, really!)
🎯 Being more present with their kids
🎯 Building meaningful friendships after years of isolation
🎯 Setting (and defending) boundaries without guilt
🎯 Learning to rest without shame
Here's what my clients are saying
The values that guide our work together
💜 Compassion: Our sessions provide a judgment-free zone with plenty of patience, acceptance, and empathy.
🤝 Collaboration: We work together to create systems that work for you. You're the expert on your brain. I'm here to guide you.
🌈 Neurodivergent pride: ADHD, autism, and AuDHD are differences, not defects. We tailor strategies that accommodate your energy, focus, and sensory needs.
🧠 Science: Our work is grounded in research on how neurodivergent brains work and what actually helps them thrive.
⚡ Empowerment: We combine effective strategies with meaningful mindset shifts.
Coaching may be right for you if you...
✔️ Believe your life can be better and are willing to put in the work to make that happen
✔️ Feel ready to redesign your life in a way that honors who you truly are and what you need
✔️ Are looking for practical, research-backed strategies you can start using right away
✔️ Want accountability and support as you make meaningful changes
Coaching isn't right for everyone
Coaching has the power to transform your life, no matter who you are.
My clients include people from all walks of life — writers, parents, therapists, teachers, artists, entrepreneurs, and lawyers, among others.
But regardless of your background, coaching isn't the right answer for everyone. It might not be the best fit if you are:
✗ Looking for a quick fix to your problems
✗ Unable to commit time and energy right now to implementing changes between coaching sessions
✗ Dealing with a mental health crisis
✗ Seeking diagnosis or treatment for a mental health condition
Want to learn more?
If you'd like to move forward, here's what your next steps are:
1. Schedule your free consultation.
We'll spend 30 minutes talking about where you are, where you want to be, and what's been blocking your way.
2. Decide if coaching is the right move for you.
There's no pressure to commit. If this feels right for you, we'll talk about next steps.
If it doesn't, I'll point you toward other resources that will better meet your needs.
3. Start designing a life that works for your brain.
If we decide to work together, we'll schedule your first session and begin the transformation.
Frequently asked questions
How does coaching differ from therapy?
Therapy generally focuses on processing emotions from the past. Coaching focuses on achieving tangible results in the future and building the life you want.
Both are valuable. Many of my clients work with a therapist in addition to working with me.
I haven't been officially diagnosed. Can I still work with you?
We can work together whether you are officially diagnosed, self-identify, or just suspect you might have a brain that is autistic, ADHD, or AuDHD.
Do you work only with cis women?
Cis women, transgender women, nonbinary, agender, autigender, gender fluid — all are welcome here!
I have more questions. How can I contact you?
Let's talk! You can text or call me at 716-320-0220.